peacock3Last month was a series of disappointments, one after the other. I was having a tough time and found myself feeling low; lower than I’d been in a long time. I’m usually a very upbeat and positive person  (slightly type A but a happy type A) but this time I would try to build myself up and something would come right up and knock me down, TKO style.

I’ve been teaching Pilates for years now, 8 years to be exact and recently I decided to give up my career as a Broadway actress and pursue my Pilates business full time. Every day, I work hard preparing my business for the anticipation of the opening of my own space here in the city. I teach my clients, write my blog, shoot workouts for youtube, and gather information for my newsletters all because I have a passion for making the Classical Pilates method accessible and modern for today’s practitioner. Like most things in life, anything worth having is worth working for, and it is work. I don’t shy away from hard work, lord knows if I learned anything from my ballet teachers with their canes beating at my bleeding point shoes, I learned to work hard. I think somewhere in my head I thought that carving a spot for myself out in the fitness world would be easier. Boy, I thought wrong.

That's me on the left back in my dancin' days!

That’s me on the left back in my dancin’ days!

When I was auditioning I always hated what I called the “peacocks” of the business. They’re the ones that push there way to the front of the dance floor, elbow you in the ribs, and have their lips permanently pursed to kiss some serious bootie, all the while preening and splaying their gigantic feathers. I could never be a peacock, even if I tried. I’m way to thoughtful and sensitive to kick anyone’s shins (although I may just be getting better at it!). I tend to be insecure and cope with it by becoming withdrawn instead of falsifying my egotism. Being Ms. Nicelady can get you in to trouble in the quest to kick up your heels on Broadway and apparently also in your path to publicly teach people to pull their abs in and up, as I learned last week.

Like they say, “Imitation is the greatest form of flattery”, but when is imitation just plain copy-ing?

A yoga and Pilates college of mine liked my blog so much that she decided to poach it’s title, merely changing one word. This isn’t the first time that this has happened to me. There’s a handful of Pilates websites created after mine that drew from my experience and design aesthetic, some that even “borrowed” text from it’s pages. This time though, it was personal. How can someone who’s already pretty successful, someone who already has celebrity clients, someone I had helped promote her own projects stab me in the back? In other words, she’s a wolf in sheep’s clothing, sheep’s Lululemon workout gear at that! Well, that which doesn’t kill us make us stronger, and after a half a box of Puffs and a stiff drink I was ready to take my revenge…becoming an even stronger version of me. There is only one me. The more I focus on being the best I can with all that makes me special and different and Lindsay, I will always succeed. I can prosper without stepping on and over others. I can share the success because there’s enough success to go around. I can lay my head every night knowing I’m a good person. I hope this inspires you to be more of yourself everyday and not be afraid of opening your heart. Being a thoughtful and giving person will only bring you happiness and reward. My life is full and joyous and I am blessed. Plus, it’s nice knowing karma is a bitch.

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6 thoughts on “Copy-Peacock

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    • Hello!
      I’m sorry that I’m just now receiving this! You were in my spam folder!
      Thanks so much for the trackback. Hope to blog with you again soon!

  2. i typically do not write on these, but the sincerity of your struggles (in a good way) resonate with me and just wanted to offer words of support to continue to face the adveristy.

    A freind recently told me that the low energy mood of late is due to the waining moon. Not sure if i believed it, but take a little of the blame off of myself.

    As for the struggle with the peacock it is similar to my own experience. I alaways waited for someone to pick me and thinking that was the better way. Not to preach and sorry, but it sounds to me with the changes you are making through the other posts that these moments are here to help you get to the next step in your life.

    my own time understanding how i operate has taught me that real change is painful and difficult, but the resulting change and how it translates into a better experience are the reward. It sounds like you know this already, but it also sounds like the events showing up are bigger becasue of the changes you have made and will only result in increased success in the future when you make the changes.

    Enjoy the fourth and good luck with the work

    • Chris-
      Thanks so much for your comment!
      It’s great knowing that my words, thoughts, and emotions are not just floating out there in the internet world without anyone reading them.
      It means something to hear that I am not the only one.
      Let me know if there’s anything else you’d like to start a dialogue about or have me blog about.
      I look forward to hearing from you again soon!
      Believe in you!
      PS- The waining moon thing really makes sense! A few of my clients have been saying that they’re exhausted lately as well! Now I can blame it on the moon!

  3. Lindsay, this post is three weeks old now, so I hope your energy levels have improved.

    But mainly i wanted to say to definitely keep that chin up, because you really are an excellent teacher–and a warm person to boot.

    I say poop to people copying your stuff/ideas/design–but it also shows how good you are at these things. :)

    NYC is lucky to have you. I don’t have many Pilates-oriented friends/relatives in the city, but I always speak of you highly. A friend’s nephew and his pals are out there now, so i will definitely tell them to check you out.

    We miss you out here in L.A.


    • Polly!!!!
      SO great to hear from you! It’s been so long since I’ve seen you and I think about you when I’m home, and in Silverlake.

      Thank you for the kind words of inspiration. I am doing well. Things have been difficult in my efforts to build my career and name in the Pilates world. But fear not, I’m not dissuaded that easily:)

      Also, thank you so much for any referrals you’ve sent my way, I completely appreciate it! I will take good care of anyone you send my way.

      Is this your new email address? I come to LA from time to time and teach at a friends studio in Silverlake. I want to make sure you’re getting updates on my teaching schedule ’cause I’d love to have you in the studio when I’m in town next. I’m hoping to be there the end of August.

      Keep in touch and hope to see you soon!


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